Aux dames mariées...

I really need to get this out as this sort of event starts repeating itself

and irritates me~

It started in May, a friend got married with my ex-roommate. They met when we were all at RIT. On our first dinner together with a couple other friends, she couldn't stop whining about how her life had changed since she moved to Jersey with her husband, how she had to stop her shopping spree, how small the diamond on her finger was... etc.. etc.. it was right in front of everybody including her husband (my ex-roommate). So, I reminded her that it was impolite and plain ungrateful. I moved to mingle with the other people in the group~

A week later another friend got married. This one complained about how she had to work harder for their honeymoon, how her husband was not interested in a corporate job, and when there were no more thing to cry about her marriage, the drill was on me... how selfish I was, eh? why I was still single.. whatevs whatevs~

Today, I was out to a double-birthday-brunch (mine and la salope) the first married couple (friends from college) and another friend.
I came with my friend to meet this couple at a restaurant in Chinatown. I was all happy since I had not seen them for a while. This time no marriage grief, instead she greeted me with what a hideous scarf you are wearing! To keep my spirit up, I just said yeah, you just envy me.. with a big smile~ The first attempt failed! So, she asked a confirmation from her husband and got a disappointing reply, I think sphinxku is always fab! Thank you! Then she started asking how much it was.. What's the point, eh? Does it matter?
There we were enjoying our brunch.. food always makes me happy anyway~
Afterwards, I passed her the present that I bought before the brunch. Thank God she was happy this time~ then we went to have coffee in SoHo and she made another idiotic comment i want to take a yoga class in Jersey.. but think about it, would you take a yoga class in JERSEY? huh? yoga is yoga is yoga.. it doesn't matter where you take it!
We splitted and headed home~ pheuw~

Alright ladies! Let's keep this short! I don't want to hear anything --especially in front of your husband! about how much you have to budget yourself, or how small your diamond engagement ring is, or why it is only an heirloom and not the latest door knob from Harry Winston, or whatever vain grief you may have! Be thankful for Godsake!

And if there is another friend gets married, no need to compare your husband and her husband-to-be. If your friend's husband-to-be happens to be wonderful, are you really going to divorce your present and find a better one? And how many times do you want to do this? Get a grip! This is not a competition. You had 27 years --ok, 10 years! to pick the best one out there, be responsible of your own judgement!

As for me being single and fabulous,

you got what you wish for~

so let me be me!

p.s. and if your husband ever asked you to seek an advice from me,

trust me, I didn't put that in his head.

Perhaps it was merely the time to re-think about your choice of outfit!

p.p.s. FYI, I'm the future Mrs. Günther. Are you threatened?